Miami South | 08.27.14 | Send Out the Bloodhounds, I Can’t Find My Desire!

It’s no secret that when a couple has been together for a while – whether or not married, with children, cohabiting or otherwise – the relationship can hit a rut, maybe even more than one during its lifetime. Simply put, successful and enduring relationships take a lot of effort from both parties. Between family obligations, careers, chores, finances and everything else that’s going on around us, many of us lose touch with our partner, both emotionally and physically. And one of the first components of a relationship that suffers is intimacy {read: sex}. In an effort to put this conundrum front and center and give it the attention it deserves, we turned to marriage and family therapist Jo Ann Lederman, M.S.Ed., LMFT, for her advice on how a couple can rekindle their desire and heat things up in the bedroom. Read today’s blog for her thoughts and suggestions. {Disclaimer: this article is not intended for a general audience!} As you scroll down, don’t miss our post regarding an upcoming Coral Gables classic movie screening and be sure to help your fellow JABBERS tackle their priorities by replying to their posts with your recommendations, know-how and advice.


Happy rekindling and happy JABBING!




Diagnosing Dementia | By Anonymous | REPLY
A friend appears to be sliding further into some sort of dementia. We are starting to get concerned about her ability to manage on her own. She needs to be evaluated and followed by a specialist who can diagnose her situation, oversee any treatment she may require and recommend the best living arrangement for her. Can someone recommend a gerontology specialist or a neurologist?


Every new school year brings change -- teachers, curriculum, and, sometimes, even a new school. Your first parent-teacher meeting of the year can be intimidating. You want to make a good impression, but you also want to help the teacher get to know your child. Start the year off right with the help of an independent Miami educational expert. Let Susan Moss Katz help you make a plan for what to say about your child. Or, let her get to know your child and go with you to the meeting. For more information, click HERE or call 305.710.5002. Ask Mrs. Katz!*


A Matter of Security | By Andres Castillo | REPLY
I have several security cameras in my house and I need to have the cables properly installed using conduits and the cameras moved to different locations. Do you have experience with someone who does this kind of work? All recommendations are welcome.
Bridge, Anyone? | By Cat McLean | REPLY
We are three elderly women looking for a fourth to play party bridge {intermediate level} once a week on Tuesdays. Our game is friendly but we do like to win. We meet in Miami, off of Sunset and SW 104 Ave. Care to join us?
Work of Art | By Andrea Abu-Akel | REPLY
I am looking for someone who can create an oil painting from a photograph. If you have any recommendations, I would love to hear from you. Thanks!
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In a Jacksonville Jam | By Aislynn Thomas | REPLY
We will soon be moving to Jacksonville and don't know anyone who lives there. I will need a reliable babysitter and a part-time housekeeper. If you have friends or family in the area with whom you could put me in contact and who could help me with my search, I would love to hear from you. Thanks!




Strike While the Iron's Hot | By Elizabeth Vargas | REPLY
I need to do something about the pile of wrinkled clothes that I have in my closet, which I say I will get around to ironing someday. I am in desperate need of someone who can come to my house to do ironing once a week. Your recommendations are appreciated.
the return of the JAB e-newsletter | By Team JAB 
JABBERS, the countdown has begun! In only a few more days, you will be waking up with the JustAskBoo newsletter once again. If you haven't already signed up, what are you waiting for? It’s free and takes about five seconds. Just click HERE. Stay tuned for this exciting change, starting Wednesday, September 3. Happy JABBING!


Exquisite French Colonial complete with white picket fence on best street in Coral Gables! Situated on the Riviera Golf Course 16th tee, this two-story four-bedroom/four-bathroom house was made for entertaining. Corner lot with golf cart path on the other side for added privacy. Updated kitchen with gas stove and double ovens opening to a grand family room and casual dining room. Huge master suite downstairs with two large closets, dual sinks. Two bedrooms/two bathrooms upstairs each with en-suite bath. Picture perfect backyard and patio with beautiful golf course views! For details, visit or contact Ashley Cusack {305.798.8685, email or website} or Lynley Ciorobea {305.968.6505 or email}. EWM Realtors.*


Let Me Show You the Door | By Shona Blonsky | REPLY
I am looking for someone to refinish our front door. If you know anyone who does this type of work, please reply above with their contact information. Thanks!
Please join us Saturday, September 20, at 7:30 pm for cocktails, music and murals to support Breakthrough Miami. Tickets are $150 per person {$125 for early RSVP}. Or, "Fund a Scholar" at $1,600, which includes two complimentary tickets to the event, a private tour of the walls, and covers the annual cost of one Breakthrough Scholar. RSVP HERE or call 305.646.7210. Breakthrough Miami is an academic/mentoring program for highly motivated yet under-resourced students. It takes place on Saturdays and six weeks in the summer on the donated campuses of Carrollton, Miami Country Day, Palmer Trinity, Ransom Everglades and UM. *


JABBERS, we have a nice long weekend coming up, which means the time will be right to do something you normally wouldn't have time to do: take in a classic movie at a grand old Coral Gables theater. This Saturday, August 30, at 8 pm, and Sunday, August 31, at 3 pm, Actors Playhouse will be offering a free screening of the 80s Steven Spielberg classic “E.T. The Extra-Terrestrial.” The film will be shown at the Miracle Theater, located at 280 Miracle Mile in the Gables. Please keep in mind that even though the movies are free, you still need tickets to attend. You can get your free tickets online HERE or by calling 305.444.9293. Get your tickets now because the screening of this movie is sure to sell out fast!


It's All in the Numbers | By Kimberly Resler | REPLY
I am seeking an experienced math tutor, preferably one who has worked with children in fourth and fifth grades, to come to my home near The Roads area once a week to start. Someone with an educator's certificate is preferred. All recommendations are welcome.
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Going My Way? | By Jane Barrellier | REPLY
I would like to put a morning carpool together from Pinecrest to Coral Reef High School. Anyone interested?
Down by the Bay | By Emmanuelle Refalo-Lopez | REPLY
I am interested in renting a furnished two-bedroom apartment from December 20, 2014 to February 20, 2015. A rental with a bay view in South Beach would be ideal. If you know of any short-term lease opportunities, please contact me. Thanks!


Research shows that good handwriting is associated with strong literacy skills and overall academic success. “Handwriting Without Tears” uses a multi-sensory, child-friendly approach to handwriting that will improve the legibility and fluency in your child’s writing. Shine Bright Therapy, located in the heart of Coconut Grove, will be offering a weekly Handwriting Without Tears After-School program beginning September 1, 2014. Groups are limited to six children a session, delivering specific remediation to your child’s needs, so contact us to reserve your spot today. For more information about our program, click HERE or call 305.854.2462.


An Rx for your rx | By team jab
Ever had your prescription rung up at the register and been shocked by the cost? Sometimes drugs are not covered by particular insurance plans. We recently learned of a program sponsored by the National League of Cities. Pinecrest, Coral Gables, Aventura and other local cities are also part of the program. Click HERE to print your card and present it to the pharmacist next time your Rx is not covered. One Team JAB member saved almost $50 on one prescription alone!


Pinecrest Pick-Up | By Uche Akunyili | REPLY
We are looking for a reliable person who can pick up our son Monday through Friday at 3 pm from Pinecrest Elementary and take him home, which is about seven blocks from the school. We have someone at home who can be with him, but unfortunately this person does not drive. All recommendations and referrals are appreciated. Thank you!
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Girls Pink Camaro For Sale | By Claudia Orrett | reply
I'm selling this pink Camaro that has been used about four times. I paid $400 for it and am selling it for $150. It measures approximately 59 inches long, 31 inches wide and 23 inches high. Pick-up in Coral Gables. Please reply above if interested.*

Whether you’re a new homeowner or a seasoned veteran, tackling a kitchen overhaul is no easy feat and you want to make sure that you’re working with the best professionals available. You know what we mean, JABBERS! When Diane reached out to you last week in her post “Kitchen Confidential,” many of you were quick to respond with your suggestions and advice. Here is only a sampling of the recommendations that Diane received:


Liza wrote “I have done a lot of homework and checked out everything from Ikea to Italian, Brazilian, and French kitchens ... by far the best service and most options with a reasonable price tag was Your Kitchen & Bath.”


Anna recommended Florida Kitchen, adding “In the past year I have done two projects with them - my home and an investment property. Not only are their prices competitive, but the owner, Juan, takes extra care of the details.”


Marilyn suggested that Diane call Hector Kitchens because, not only is Marilyn currently working with them on a project, but she has also “seen many of their finished kitchens at friends' houses” and is “extremely impressed.”


To view personal recommendations from fellow JABBERS, visit our Recommendations page HERE.


Today on our Blog:
Send Out the Bloodhounds, I Can’t Find My desire!
by jo ann lederman, M.S.ed., lmft
She sat there crying, thinking she had entered early menopause at 45 because she hadn’t felt desire, except rarely, in more than five years.


Asked to describe her life, Suzy {not her real name} told a fairly typical story of life managing the needs of three children, an intense husband, John {not his real name}, and a demanding job. Suzy reported that the early years of their married life were characterized by sex, love and economic motivation, describing them as the “delicious years.” The birth of each, very wanted, child added successive layers of complexity, leaving this couple with less and less time for privacy and intimate moments. Although her husband continued to request intimate time, after her children’s needs were satisfied, she was too fatigued to even contemplate her own. Her once tender husband became more and more “intense,” and ...



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